Mama That Could Get Her Black Belt | 1 Day to Black Belt Test

Mama That Could Get Her Black Belt | 1 Day to Black Belt Test

Here we are…tomorrow is the big day.

Getting this far, marks a huge milestone for me. When I was 15 years old, I quit 6 months before my black belt test. I never forgot it. I always felt like it was a part of my life that was incomplete. So in my 20’s I went back to Tae Kwon Do, got myself up to speed and then 6 months before my black belt (again), I stopped. I moved away and put Tae Kwon Do behind me. However, I never forgot my forms or my kicks. Somewhere in the back of my mind, I knew the day would come for me to finish.

Fast forward to 2012. I moved to Utah and my sis opened her own Tae Kwon Do studio. Ma’am Polly Villatuya, is my sister as well as my instructor. She has been a martial artist for over 30 years! Her instructor, Master Lee Lawler, was also my first TKD instructor. She helped two of her students open their martial arts studios in the Bay Area. I am blessed to train with my sister. She trains with emphasis on the old school and is a stickler about my stances and technique. Every correction she gives me, I am thankful for, and quick to make the adjustments.

Maybe I never got my black belt, because I was meant to be her first black belt (of her own studio)? Now there’s a thought.

As I reflect on this journey and the big day tomorrow, I’ve learned a few things about myself. For years I was haunted by the notion that I was no good at completing things. As a busy Mom and entrepreneur, going back to Tae Kwon Do seemed impossible.  As a life coach, I learned to work past those false beliefs. In truth, getting my black belt is something I desire and care to accomplish. When you want something bad enough, you’ll commit and find a way to make it happen.

When I injured my shoulder a few weeks ago, I know from past injury, it’s typically a 5-6 week week recovery and much rest is required to heal the shoulder. When it happened, I was disappointed, but there was no doubt in my mind that this black belt test was going to happen.

I started getting massages, using Doterra essential oils (love their Deep Blue oil and cream rub), icing my shoulder right after workouts and slowly implementing strength training. I pushed as far as I could without risking re-injury. I use a shoulder brace every time I train. I pray and have asked for much prayer coverage from friends and family to get me through this. When I got the stomach flu, I was slightly disheartened about the setback but again, determined to make it to this big day…which is tomorrow.

I truly believe and am living proof…it’s never too late to pursue the things that are important to you.

In reference to Bruce Lee’s quote, “If you always put limits on everything you do, physical or anything else, it will spread into your work and into your life. There are no limits. There are only plateaus, and you must not stay there you must go beyond them.”  I know that training for my black belt has pushed me beyond my old limits and the discipline has impacted my work and my life.  I also know that hitting this new milestone tomorrow, is going to push me even further.

So here’s to going beyond the plateau…


Mama That Could Get Her Black Belt | 5 Days to Black Belt Test

The countdown continues with just 5 more days to go.  Black Belt test is so close I can practically taste it…

Today I broke my first board with a step in side kick, at the end of practice.  It felt so good to see my foot go through that board.  My second kick was a jump back kick and three attempts later…no go.  I didn’t break the board.  To say I was disappointed is a severe understatement.  I was torn between discouragement, disappointment and determination.  I spent the rest of class extra focused and perhaps a little more aggressive than necessary to compensate for the lack of board break.  It really messed with my head.   I could laugh about it, but I couldn’t get it out of my head.

I felt very confident with all my drills, but not seeing myself break that board was a little nerve-wracking.  I get another chance on Wednesday…If I can break that board on Wednesday I know it will go along way toward my confidence and conviction for test day…

Say a prayer for me would you?  If you watch the video, you’ll see a sweet message my sister left me on my board to encourage me.

Little bits of encouragement go a very long way…



Mama That Could Get Her Black Belt | 10 Days To Black Belt

Okay, 10 Days to black belt, and I’m freaking out just a little bit. I missed a day of training due to the stomach flu. I had to force myself to rest and recuperate, but I definitely felt the frustration in not being able to work out. I have had two previous shoulder dislocations and recently suffered a partial dislocation during training:-( So these setbacks have been a little discouraging, but this is not the time to give up!

I am absolutely determined to see this through! I’ve come way too far to quit or to postpone testing. I’m thankful for this shoulder support brace made by shock doctor. It gives me confidence that I will not re-injure the shoulder during training. I ice my shoulder immediately after training which helps with the inflammation. I’ve also been asking for prayers to see me through these final stages of training.

Overall, I’m feeling mentally strong and consciously working to not get too caught up in anxiety or fear. I feel the anxiety, the butterflies in the stomach, but I just pray, pray and pray some more. God is faithful…because He’s giving me the strength to persevere.

10 Days and counting…